Die to Love First – How I Met My Valentine
“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it (Matthew 16:25).”
Twenty-seven years ago, I met my valentine on this Valentine’s Day. We were married before the year’s end. It’s been a blessed twenty-six years. But it was not a coincidence that we met.
Everyone desires to be loved. It is the inborn God-given longing. Seeking to be loved was the one thing that I did like everyone else. But none of my relationships worked out. Realizing I needed to build my first love first, I decided to surrender my love life, or the lack of it, to God. Purposed to love God by studying the Bible seriously and attending the church regularly – everything I did was to focus on God and work only.
I let my bodily desire of “being-loved” die.
“Dear God, I am willing to be single for the rest of my life… But if you have a life partner for me, he has to be a Christian…”
I then gave God a list of 8 qualities this unknown man must have, if He prepared a husband for me. Life went on. I focused on worshipping God by reserving every Friday nights for Bible study, and every Sunday for church. My spiritual life strengthened and God blessed me with such financial success as well in my work as a concert-violinist.
Two months later, my sister asked me to send her to the young adult Christian retreat at her church over the President’s weekend. I looked at my calendar, it was empty. There was no concert to play nor weddings to perform. I decided to go with her, to seek God.
God orchestrated my whole life symphony. The first person I met at the retreat was my future husband. Within moments of meeting him, I realized that he matched every item on my prayer list! The Holy Spirit revealed to me immediately that he was my “stand-partner” for life.
At the wedding in Calvary Church opposite of Carnegie Hall, my students performed my favorite piece of music, Bach’s Double Concerto. It was a match in heaven. We sensed God’s pleasure in us as we took the covenant vow before Him.
Die to physical love first, but desire spiritual love with God. It will cause Him to pour down His love through a life time.
“Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4).”
By Frieda Yang